The Gottman Method was developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman after decades of observing thousands of couples in their research lab. Instead of guessing what makes relationships work, they measured it. The result is a practical model built around what they call the “Sound Relationship House” — a set of skills that strengthen friendship, deepen intimacy, and help partners handle conflict without damaging the bond between them.

In sessions, you and your partner start with a thorough assessment of your relationship’s strengths and struggles. From there, your therapist helps you build everyday habits like turning toward each other, managing disagreements gently, and creating shared meaning. The approach is collaborative and skills-focused — you leave with tools you can actually use, not just insight you talk about. It pairs naturally with our broader couples and marriage counseling services.

If one or both partners also struggle individually — with anxiety, depression, or addiction — Gottman work often runs alongside individual support so you’re both bringing your healthiest selves into the relationship.

The Gottman Method tends to work best for partners who are both willing to show up and try new skills, even when things feel hard. You don’t need to be in crisis to benefit — many couples use it to strengthen an already-good relationship or to prepare for marriage. If your relationship is shaped by deep emotional disconnection or attachment wounds, your therapist may blend Gottman tools with Emotionally Focused Therapy for a more attachment-centered approach.

Several of our therapists are trained in the Gottman Method, including Sway Chavez, CMHC, Anna Anguiano Smith, LCSW, and Amanda Heaton, LMFT. When you reach out, our intake specialist will match you with the couples therapist whose style fits you both best.